Now, It’s not what happens to you but what you do with what happens to you that makes the difference. Here are three easy ways to always come out on top:
- Focus on Your Strengths
We’re a bunch of contradictions – sorry, but it’s true. Sometimes happy, sometimes sad; sometimes hopeful, sometimes pessimistic; sometimes childish and sometimes mature. We also have a whole load of strengths and weaknesses that affect what we do and how we do it, but we tend to put more focus on our weaknesses and not our strengths.
A strength is something that you do consistently well– it’s something you’re just able to do, you’re hard-wired to do it well and you get an inherent satisfaction from doing it. It could be tackling and solving complex problems, empathizing with people, having a lively imagination, or being able to make the perfect omelet.
Focusing on what you do well rather than what you’re not so good at makes all kinds of sense. When you look at what you’re not good at you feel bad about yourself and your ability, but when you focus on your strengths, you’re will get results, and can even eliminate any negative effect your weaknesses might have.
- Set Things Up Ahead Of Time
Sure, there will be times when you can just head into something, do brilliantly at it, and get the result you were hoping for (normally if you’re playing to your strengths), but other times you might blunder forwards, wing it, and not get the result you wanted. Whatever challenges or opportunities you’re facing you’ll stand a much better chance of getting a great result if you set things up to succeed ahead of time.
So what exactly do you want to happen? What solution, outcome, or result would be great? Get really clear on the outcome you want from what you are currently doing and how it would feel to get the outcome you’re looking for. Then start breaking it down – what can you do to set things up so that your desired outcome happens? What needs to be put in place? What will help to make what you want, happen? And to ensure the best outcome, what are you willing to do?