Are You Looking for Love, or Are You Looking to Give It?

Let’s get real for a moment. When it comes to love, which camp are you in? Are you hungry for love—searching, yearning, hoping someone will fill a void inside you? Or are you so full of love that you radiate it, naturally attracting it back to you?

It’s a powerful question, isn’t it? One that can completely shift the way you approach relationships and even yourself.

Hungry for Love: The Seeker’s Trap

When you’re hungry for love, you’re operating from a place of lack. You’re searching for someone to fill your emotional gaps, to validate you, to make you feel whole. It might look like:

• Over-investing in relationships too quickly.

• Ignoring red flags because you’re afraid to be alone.

• Chasing validation from people who aren’t giving you the love you deserve.

Being hungry for love puts you in a vulnerable position, where you may give away your power, settle for less, or cling to relationships that don’t serve you.

Why? Because the hunger blinds you. It convinces you that having “someone” is better than having “no one.”

But here’s the thing: when you seek to get love, you’re playing a game of scarcity.

Full of Love: The Magnetic Mindset

Now, imagine the opposite. Imagine being so full of love—self-love, joy, and peace—that you don’t need anyone to complete you. Instead, you’re looking for someone to share your overflow with. You’re not a seeker; you’re a giver.

When you’re full of love:

• You approach relationships from a place of abundance.

• You set clear boundaries and attract people who respect them.

• You radiate confidence, authenticity, and warmth.

This is the secret sauce of magnetism. People are drawn to those who don’t need their love but rather invite them into a space of mutual giving and receiving.

How to Shift from Hungry to Full

So how do you make the leap? How do you move from feeling hungry for love to radiating it from within? Here are three transformative steps:

1. Fill Your Own Cup First

Stop looking for others to provide what you can give yourself. Cultivate radical self-love by doing things that make you happy, honoring your boundaries, and speaking kindly to yourself. When you feel whole, you’ll naturally attract whole people.

2. Heal the Hunger

Reflect on the source of your hunger. Is it rooted in childhood experiences, past heartbreak, or limiting beliefs about your worth? Healing these wounds frees you from chasing external love to fix internal pain.

3. Focus on Giving, Not Getting

Instead of asking, “What can I get from this relationship?” shift your mindset to, “What can I give?” Giving love—whether it’s through kindness, support, or encouragement—creates a powerful ripple effect. It comes back to you tenfold.

The Beauty of Being Magnetic

When you’re full of love, you’re not just attracting someone into your life; you’re attracting the right someone. Someone who complements your fullness, respects your boundaries, and aligns with your values.

It’s not magic—it’s alignment. And that alignment starts with you.

So, let me ask you again:

Are you looking for love, or are you looking to give it?

Are you hungry, or are you full?

Because when you’re full of love, you don’t just find love—you become it. And that, my dear, is the most magnetic thing you can ever be.

Ready to shift from seeking to radiating?

I got you xxx

Joan